“What is this life if,full of care ,
You have no time to stand and stare?”
-WH Davies.
Staring for a dilettante! If this sounds odd to you , u haven’t explored the subtleties -the beauty and the excitement behind this art. I ‘m sure most of us must have indulged in it sometime or the other –intentionally or unintentionally. Herein , I’ll talk about a particular kind of stare –staring at people.
To begin with , it carries a connotation depending on the facial expression and posture or if the ”starant “ is observant enough ,depending on your eyes. It takes practice and substantial patience to be able to communicate the right emotions through staring .
You don’t want to get slapped on your face by someone when your intentions are truly innocuous , do you?
The fun lies in watching the reactions of people when u stare at them , depending on how u do it . There are a number of ways in which u can stare.For once ,try different kinds of stare on the same person or the same stare on different people. It can be hazardous if u r unlucky or if u do it in an improper way. So, be fast to gauge reactions and take precautions.
Staring assumes fantastic dimensions when it concerns the opposite sex. Communication of the correct emotion is of utmost importance here . People like to be stared at if your stare signifies a likeness of the person , more so if the person is of the opposite sex. It’s kind of an acknowledgement of the person’s beauty or goodness . And who doesn’t want to think he/she is good?
Sometimes u stare at people unintentionally . U’d be ruminating on something with ur eyes resting on someone’s visage . This might wrong signals depending on what u r thinking about and how ur mood is. Sometimes ,the stare would be so intense that the starant gets scared,even though ur intentions r innocent.Beware!
If a person returns your stare , it cant get any better. If its of the opposite sex, and the stare signifies a likeness, id advise to indulge in a “stare-stare “ relationship . For the relationship to work out properly , u have to have a chance to meet or at least glance at each other everyday . There should be a place , preferably a public one where u can peacefully pursue it. Such a relationship comes with no strings attached . U can keep on thinking u like each other (MAY not be a mutual feeling) without ever worrying about it .But caution has to be taken so as not to speak any word about this to anyone . The beauty of the thing lies in silence ! Even when u step out of the relationship , there is no trouble . U can still feel good about it as ever. Its like a beautiful dream , something that makes u refreshed in the morning and makes u prepared to face the day ,however it turns out to be.
A factor that might affect this indulgence is lack of time. It does require time to be practiced as a proper hobby. People with hectic jobs can’t afford to become dilettantes here .But even in this case, there’s an interesting alternative. Short as it may seem , there’s tremendous fun in inculcating a regular staring habit. U can do it in bus rides ,elevators, traffic points ,train stations – places where people congregate in large numbers. And if u find a regular customer , u’d be longing for those seconds of stare in no time.
Id like to make an earnest appeal to everyone to promote this art , to know and study its importance . For how long can we so busy so as to stop staring at all? Lets indulge in it , and improve our communication skills. The simple yet potent way of communication.